Ken Williams
I began a pursuit of my true sexual identity in 1987 when my battle against homosexuality grew into intentions of suicide. After over a decade of failed attempts at freedom, I encountered God in areas & ways that transformed me. The following years healed childhood trauma, replaced lies with truth, forged intimacy with God, and established self-love and masculine identity.
I didn’t fit in with the boys, as a child. They didn’t seem to like me, and neither did I. So from first grade, I began to live every day in a fantasy world of codependent fixation on whichever boy in my life I saw as the picture-perfect male. It was how I affirmed myself and coped with a life of hopelessness and self-hatred. My very first sexual desires were for other males. I had none for females. And my pain medication for 20 years was daily addiction to masturbation, which sometimes included stents of serious addiction to pornography. The shame of those sins and multiple inappropriate sexual encounters resulted in a suicidal season at age 17. I couldn’t fathom breaking free of my addictions or ever finding a woman sexually attractive, let alone becoming married to a woman, enjoying sex with her, and fathering four children…until a life in Christ became deeply experiential for me.
Today, I consult with individuals, churches, and organizations about issues of sexual purity and navigating LGBTQ issues, and I am a public advocate for men and women to have rights, freedoms, and counseling to leave an LGBTQ life behind if they so choose. I have been a pastor since 2006; am co-founder of CHANGED Movement; am co-founder of Equipped to Love, a ministry which serves those impacted by LGBTQ; serve Moral Revolution as an author, lecturer, and minister; and hold a B.S. in Marketing/Finance. My greatest joys are my beautiful wife and our four incredible children.
Find my online discipleship journey, Finding You: An Identity Based Journey Out of Homosexuality and Into All Things New or my book, The Journey OUT.